I hate being the newbie whose first post is a question, but I thought y'all could help me out. Basically my questions are: 1. Did we mess up by not handling our panther gecko? 2. Is there a way to get him to stop being so reclusive? And now explanations! A little over a year ago my husband bought a panther gecko. I want to point out that since he wanted to get a lizard he did all the research, it didn't dawn on me that maybe I should do some too. My husband told me that panther geckos don't like to be held, so in all the time we've owned him I've only touched him once, and that was to get him to move so I could put something in his tank. Now I'm looking around and reading that panther geckos should be handled, but I don't know if it's too late or not. Given how reclusive he is now, I have a feeling he wouldn't like it if I tried to hold him. At first we would frequently see Perry out and about, sitting on his log or behind the rock he hides in. When we'd feed him he had no problem being out in the open, and I was even able to get some videos of him hunting crickets. But for the past few months we've stopped seeing him. The only reason we even know he's alive is because the tank isn't overrun with crickets, and sometimes I'll see him stick his head out of his rock. On the weekends I'll sometimes be up till 2:00 am and even then I won't see him out. Is that normal? It really bums me out that I never get to see him anymore, I keep hoping this is just some phase he'll get out of. Anyway, thank you to anyone who can help, and I apologize if starting off by asking a question is frowned upon.